I don’t know if it is time to leave.back info?
Written by admin on May 27, 2009 – 9:02 am
haroldhark asked:
Sorry bout not enough info. We have dated 3.5yrs He has custody of kids 16 and 18. I have 11yr old. Have been going tween 2 homes for 3 yrs…me to him as In live in condo. This vacationwas just him and his kids no relatives. They went to his home town …..visiting places of interest for 2 wks. They flew first class part of the way( he is travel agent). I work hard but income is down…need 2nd job. He has nice home .car, boat etc. He is generous in some ways. Always pays for dinner etc, we had 2 great cruise vacations. His family treats my son GREAT. Is hesitant to commit. My son sleeps in 4th bedroom/office…..on sofa bed. Refuses to make the room a “bedroom”. Offers to include me on his health insurance, at a cost of $400 month. Insures all of his adult family…….sisters…nieces…nephews….they always pay months late. I am happy he loves his kids so much…good quality in him.
He says he loves me very much….but I am just not feeling it. Especially after being left out
Sorry bout not enough info. We have dated 3.5yrs He has custody of kids 16 and 18. I have 11yr old. Have been going tween 2 homes for 3 yrs…me to him as In live in condo. This vacationwas just him and his kids no relatives. They went to his home town …..visiting places of interest for 2 wks. They flew first class part of the way( he is travel agent). I work hard but income is down…need 2nd job. He has nice home .car, boat etc. He is generous in some ways. Always pays for dinner etc, we had 2 great cruise vacations. His family treats my son GREAT. Is hesitant to commit. My son sleeps in 4th bedroom/office…..on sofa bed. Refuses to make the room a “bedroom”. Offers to include me on his health insurance, at a cost of $400 month. Insures all of his adult family…….sisters…nieces…nephews….they always pay months late. I am happy he loves his kids so much…good quality in him.
He says he loves me very much….but I am just not feeling it. Especially after being left out
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May 29th, 2009 at 11:38 am
If he is not including you as part of his family then that is a problem. He treats you when he can but it is obvious you do NOT come first. You need to come first. Meet a guy who treats you right.
June 1st, 2009 at 2:18 am
I am looking at both sides here. His children aren’t really even “children” anymore. No offense to you, but could one or both of his kids have requested a “just me and you Dad” kind of vacation? It was a grad type of gift. He may not have wanted to hurt your feelings or your childs. Not wanting to change the room into a bedroom could indicate resistence to commit. But, offering to add you guys to his health insurance is a great sign. He could just feel that changing the bedroom is a drag and just “another” task to tackle. I have to reiterate my previous answer to this question; sit down with him and talk about. He may have been wanting to talk about it.
June 1st, 2009 at 3:26 pm
well i have read thru your previous questions,it seems hes not ready to commit could be he has enough on his plate already…i think it wise for you to remain living on your own at this time,be thankful he does what he does for/with you…your kids have you, be the best you can be for then,don’t expect this man to stand up and be the father you wish he would ,be the best friend you can be for him don’t question his choices about how he does for his kids he is doing his best to be the dad he wants for his kids,maybe you can learn from his actions…don’t take me wrong I’m sure your a great mom,maybe this man isn’t looking to support a mom and kids maybe he wants someone that’s more independent than you seem to be,maybe hes giving you time for you and your child to be together,and yes i think its time or you to consider moving on if your not happy and you cant see any way to work out these differences,don’t put yourself down because you have less than he does,be good to yourself and be happy with what you have…
June 2nd, 2009 at 11:21 am
He’s hesitant to commit. He said it and it shows. Ask him what his long term plans are, if he sees you in it. If he doesn’t, it’s better to know now so you can decide on your future.
June 3rd, 2009 at 5:52 am
This guy is a jerk. Dump him. You’re blinded by the tidbits he is throwing you, probably because you’ve never had them before. You can find another man with a bigger bank account in a second, if that’s what you’re looking for. Or, you could find a real man who will truly want to be with you.
Oh . . . By the way . . . He is treating you this way because he can.